Relationships and expectations...

This is a never ending relation again...each is so dependent on the other and they do not like being dependent either! (If you get what I mean). You expect only from people you are close to and certain times expectations in a relation hurts or may be too much to ask for. There is never a rule that states don't expect from the ones you are close to or all that is expected has to done for you. It all comes down to the level of trust and respect for the particular individual. Being at the receiving end of getting what I expected and not getting my expectations met had got me thinking. Does it signify the level of importance one has for the other when your expectations are met or does it mean you were taken for granted just because your expectations were not met...or the plain fact ..don't expect too much...if something you wished for happens... be happy or if does not..it's ok..life still goes on!!! I wish I had the answers to both the questions above...
Again does it mean you care so much for the person that you are disappointed ultimately or does it mean you just don't care enough. Relationships are not surely measured my any means, it is an abstract feeling or level of closeness with the individual which only the two can feel !! Only if the feeling is mutual on either side there could be some sanity in the expectations met and expectations not met category...all said and done...I still have no answer to the basic question...should we expect anything at all from our loved ones or just that not to stress out in case things don;t happen the way we want them to ???!!

Trust

Trust...it is all but one word that throws many a relation together and one too many apart. To me it is an abstract feeling of togetherness and bonding with the person without knowing what holds you together. Right from the days we entered into this world we learned to trust without knowing what it is really about. We trusted mom would give us the food we needed with the whimper of a cry we let out at all times of day. We trusted she knew that we needed to be well cuddled when we grew restless at night not able to sleep. We trusted that she would let us stay back at home from school when we faked a headache and we trusted she knew that we wanted her to stay up all night with us as we prepared for our exams. As we grew older that trust was shared with our friends who we knew would wait and walk with us to college. Trusted that they wanted to have coffee breaks the same time we did. Trusted they would help us during examination preps and writing times :). Trusted they would not hide anything from us. Treated us as one of their kind.
Knowing what it takes to trust a person and it being an abstract feeling,it is like a thin thread which needs to be handled gently or else torn forever. Little actions..little gestures..little deeds count a lot and when these lose their value the very essence of the feeling is lost. Trust in a relation is the most sacred thing which needs to be guarded for a lifetime. I am a firm believer in it and though some times it keeps sliding away from my hands I know that those things (relations) which are meant to be yours... would be yours.